Dancing To A Different Beat

Here’s my tiny dancer. Do you dance to a different beat? How about your little one? How has it changed your life? How have you grown from this?

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This entry was published on 1 February 2012 at 3:20 pm. It’s filed under Dancing, Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. Follow any comments here with the RSS feed for this post.

4 thoughts on “Dancing To A Different Beat

  1. So this is me venting, but… My child has a slight speech impediment and varied interests. She is treated differently because of her speech and has sometimes been nudged not to like “boy” things. It’s all so frustrating.

    • It really is frustrating. Is that others’ way of trying to “normalize” her to in some way? Who nudges her? I found that, at first, many people close to us (read: family members) would try very hard to dissuade Noah from liking “girl” things. Once I finally put my foot down to that and felt the strength of my own confidence as a parent…it seemed to get easier. I don’t know if it’s because we surround ourselves with such an open and welcoming community or because he’s still so young but we rarely, if ever, have issues now. I don’t know how that will all change when he gets to be your daughter’s age but then again…who knows what his interests will be also. What matters is that they are loved and supported at home for who they are. Does she like “boy” things or do you find her to lean more towards gender normative interests because of choice or pressure?

  2. At this age, it seems to be other children that are the worst. When she was younger, it was her father’s parents, but they don’t really see her anymore (they moved out of state). She likes to wear a tie and some of the kids at school were telling her that ties were only for boys. Now she doesn’t wear it as often. It’s lots of little things like that and interests that are either gender neutral or seen as male. It also seems that her classmates think if they harass her about her speech, that something will change. It doesn’t work and last night she was very upset. I do wonder how Noah’s peers will treat him as he gets older. I wonder if they’ll try to crush his spirit and individuality. Athena’s school is fairly open and allows the students a great amount of freedom, but it seems that the children still impose standards on each other. I have to assume this is what’s taught to them at home. So I continue to tell her that: ballerinas are athletes, pink is not just for girls, boys can wear dresses if they want to, it’s okay to wear a tie, and everyone has something that’s difficult for them it just might not be as obvious as a speech impediment; what is important is to allow everyone to make their own choices without judging them or imposing our own opinions.

  3. bindance on said:

    He is absolutely beautiful! How wonderful you have enrolled him in ballet. He looks so very happy.

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